Some of you may remember a few years ago, Pat got this fantastic deal on burial Urns through E-Bay (Pat wanted to leave this world with a deal!!!). When Pat's dad died, we used one of our Urns after seeing what they were going to charge my mother in law at the funeral home. We gave the other one to Betty (MIL) to match her husbands. We remembered the Urn company was in Florida (in fact a 1/2 hour from our RV park) so we took a drive to see if we could save money on shipping this time . We were happy to find out it was indeed the same company on Ebay (they had Pat's name in the computer). The owner gave us another great deal on the above which will be our final resting place. Pat really liked the matching hearts.
Today we also made a trip to Port Charlotte, where Pat's Granddad is buried. We made sure we brought new flowers after our last experience coming here. Sure enough the flowers had been removed from our last visit. (maybe the get too dusty or dirty looking????)
Came back to Ruskin in a torrential downpour. The TV says there are now Tornado warnings near our RV park...woot woot!!!
SHE SAID:
Reading Johns comments above I must seem like a cheapskate, with a morbid mind...perhaps I am. I feel the need to remind John that when I purchased the Urns, which we used for Dad, were purchased as he was going through a 'need' to have something for his final resting place. Every time we entered a department store he would point out baskets and other containers and ask what I thought about it as a container for his final remains. I have been married to this man for 36 years, and I will ask you to flash back to the quest for satellite - when he gets an idea about something it becomes something like trying to get a bone from a dog - almost impossible. I figured that I would be looking at possible final resting places, until something had been decided. That is when ebay came into the picture. I am a deal hunter as he is an 'obsessive' searcher for things. Many times this is a pretty good match, he can get and I can find the 'best' deal. I was able to get the original urns at a fantastic price - one that a co-worker also saw the value of - and we purchased 4 - 2 for us, 2 for them. I don't think her husband ever looked at me the same way after this particular purchase, though. Flash forward to the use of both urns for my parents - one used, one in waiting - John having a hole in something he felt was important - on to the shopping trip. I just recalled shipping was from the Gulf coast of Florida, and voila - 2 more urns. The owner was very excited to meet a customer, and in her words...she often doesn't get repeat customers :)
This may seem morbid to some, however I have no issues with death or dying - at least not yet. I have a very strong belief that we will go on after the death of our bodies. We are spiritual beings, having an earthly experience. From the moment we are born we are moving towards death. It is a good thing we don't know the time when it will happen, but it will happen to all of us. I also know some who don't feel cremation is the 'best' way to deal with our mortal body after death. After some long discussions with my father, mother and husband it was interesting to hear what issues about death that bothered us - such as embalming - I wasn't really concerned, as I figured I wouldn't feel anything, but there were those in the group that it was a big issue. I personally have huge issues with the Funeral Home business and the giant costs associated with them, now - cremation is simpler, cheaper, and isn't such a huge burden to the family - this is done throughout the world, the law in smaller countries, so I figure we will be forgiven for this choice.
On to the rest of the day - it really was one where I had the opportunity to think about mortality - we drove on to Port Charlotte to visit the niche where my Gaga is. We took some new flowers (3rd time I've done this in 6 years). Guess he may have some of the same issues discussed above. He is in a wall, which is now a part of a chapel of chimes -we got there around 4, and the chimes played for about 15 minutes, a very pleasant place.
As I said earlier - seems pretty morbid today, but it is grey, overcast and raining, so a perfect day for contemplating our mortality.
The thought of embalming may not disturb you, but it does me. I don't want to look like I'm just about to wake up when I'm dead. When I go, I want for all of my usable organs to be donated, either to people who need a transplant, or to a science department at a university somewhere
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